6 Ways to Spot A Narcissist

Psychologists say that narcissism in a trait that all humans are born with. In one way or another, each of us seek attention from others constantly, but sometimes some people do this excessively, at the expense of other people’s feelings and emotions.

According to Psychology Today, these types of narcissists are the ones who are more overt about who they are. There is another type of narcissists called vulnerable narcissists, who are not as obvious in displaying their tendencies, but when they do, they can still wreak havoc in relationships with people around them. Here are pointers on how to spot a narcissist.

1. No real interest in you. 

At the end of the night, is there anything that he knows about you? Did you hear stories from childhood all the way to present time? Did he tell you about trips, pets and politics? Did he obsess about wine tasting, sports or cars? If you feel a bit neglected on the first date, don't dismiss it.

2. Takes ''often'', gives ''little''

No real surprise here. UCs are takers is just about every imaginable sense. They’ll gladly take your time to ask a favor that they’ll probably never return. Or maybe they’ll ask to borrow something, money even, and never give a second thought to returning what’s rightfully yours.

3. They always manage to make the conversation about themselves.

“You could start talking to a person about how you have cancer, and pretty soon you’re talking about their new car,”

4. They will lie just to lie

Really, a narcissist doesn’t need to benefit from a lie for it to be worth telling. Lying itself is an expression of their power and superiority. They get a rush from fooling others. It confirms that they are smarter, trickier, and more worldly than everyone else. For this reason, they will sometimes lie when there is absolutely nothing to be gained from doing so.

5. They do not admit fault

If something doesn’t go well, somebody else is always to blame. A true apology, or even admission of an honest mistake, is hard to come by. They will often say things like “I’m sorry it upset you when I said that,” or “I’m sorry you feel that way.” In a professional setting, they will blame their mistakes on technology, other peoples’ work, or systematic failures.

6. They Put Blame On Others

Narcissists have an unwillingness to admit mistakes, according to Psychology Today. Because of this, they tend to blame others when things go wrong, and they get upset if you try to attribute a problem to them.

Sources:

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/catherine-behan/how-spot-narcissist-first-date

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/spot-a-narcissist/

http://iheartintelligence.com/2016/11/22/spot-narcissist/

https://www.bustle.com/articles/189784-11-ways-to-spot-a-narcissist-early-on-in-any-type-of-relationship