9 Scientific Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Stay Single

This article was written by Sebastian Harris, a lover of women, science nerd and truth-seeker… 

I know many people who claim that they are single and happy, but I only know a few who are truly happy. 

A lot of times this whole “I’m single and loving it” mantra is just another way to protect yourself. But just because the mask you show to the world says that you are happy doesn’t mean that you are in fact happy. 

Let’s face the truth. 

Most singles, especially the ones who don’t have a lot of experience in the dating world are miserable. They are lonely, frustrated and they yearn for companionship. And no, you don’t have to be ashamed to belong to this group of people. You are not alone. Millions of people all over the world dream of putting an end to their single life.

But I have to warn you. The journey can be tough and you will probably go on many unsuccessful dates.  

But even though the journey can be tough, it’s worth it, at least when you believe in science. Yes, science. There are hundreds of studies that prove that it’s better for you if you don’t stay single. 

Let’s have a look at some of these studies and their findings.  

1. You Are More Satisfied in Life  

Are you satisfied with your single life? 

Maybe you are. But even if that’s the case, you would probably be happier if you were in a relationship. In case you don’t believe me, you can have a look at this study by the Journal of Positive Psychology. 

According to the researchers, you are more satisfied in life when you have strong social relationships. And the strongest relationship you can have is the one with a loving partner who supports you in everything you do.  

2. You Can Save a Lot of Money 

I think I don’t need to cite a scientific study to prove that being in a relationship can save you a lot of money. 

Just think about the money you can save when you live together with your partner. Of course, you need a bigger apartment than when you live alone, but in the end you still save a lot of money, at least when your partner pays half of the rent. 

In case you find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you can save even more money. As soon as you get married, you save hundreds, if not thousands of dollars in taxes.

3. You Can Have an Awesome and Cheap Wedding  

Thanks Hollywood. Due to your impact, the majority of women dream about a big and fancy wedding ceremony with hundreds of guests and a buffet that costs more than a Toyota Prius. This is one of the reasons why a lot of men have nightmares as soon as they think about marriage. 

On the other hand, a lot of people, both men and women, describe their wedding day as the happiest day of their life. 

Why do I tell you this? 

As a single you might also dream about a wonderful wedding. You want to experience the happiness, but you don’t want to pay the high price tag. 

Well, I have good news for you. 

According to this study, couples who spend less on their wedding are happier and stay together longer than couples who spend a lot of money on this day. In other words, you can experience the happiness that comes with getting married without going bankrupt. 

Has it ever been so compelling to find a partner and to get married? 

4. You Can Deal Better With Stressful Situations

What do you usually do when you are stressed?

It’s no secret that a lot of people try to deal with stress by using alcohol, cigarettes and all kinds of other substances that are anything but healthy. Yes, people destroy themselves because they can’t deal with stress. 

According to a study by the National Bureau of Economic Research, people who are married are better at dealing with stress than people who are single. 

This shouldn’t come to a surprise. If you have nobody to talk to and nobody who supports you in difficult times, it’s enticing to try to medicate yourself with all kinds of substances. It seems that talking to someone who you can trust is more powerful than what doctors prescribe. 

5. You Are Happier When You Love Than When You Work 

Work is an important part of life. For some people it’s the most important part of life, especially for singles.  I think we’ve all heard it before. 

“I don’t want a relationship because I’m too busy with my work.”

That’s the typical excuse that people make when they are asked why they are still single. And sometimes it’s true. Some people are too busy for a relationship. But maybe they should ask themselves if this is really the right path. 

The Department of Education Science of the Universidad Nacional de Entre Rios in Argentina conducted a study in which they observed the importance of love and work among young professionals. The researchers wanted to find out if love or work leads to more satisfaction and happiness. 

As a single you might hate me for saying this but according to this study, a loving relationship has a bigger impact on your happiness than your work. Maybe you should rethink the idea that you don’t have time for a relationship because you are too busy.  

6. Having Someone Who Supports You is Important 

But it’s not just about happiness. It’s also about how you feel when times are tough. 

I already told you that you can cope better with stressful situations when you are in a fulfilling relationship, but do you also know that compassion for your struggle leads to more happiness and contentment? 

Well, it does. A study that was published in the Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience journal proved that you are happier when you have someone in your life who feels with you and who helps you to overcome your issues. 

7. Love has the Power to Make You Feel Amazing 

I already cite enough studies in this article. I don’t have to cite another ten studies that prove that love gives you powerful emotions. Love is like a drug that fills your brain with dopamine and oxytocin, both hormones that are known for giving you positive emotions. 

Why do you think so many successful people are happily married? 

The emotions they experience by loving their partner and by being loved give them the mental and emotional strength to follow their vision. 

8. In an Intimate Relationship You Can Be Honest 

As a single, you have to lie a lot. You have to make up an excuse when your mom asks you why you are still single and you probably also lie whenever one of your coworkers asks you’ll what you do on the weekend. 

That’s why it’s so awesome to be in a relationship. 

If you have a partner who trusts you and who you can trust, you can be 100% honest. According to Anita Kelly, a psychology professor at the University of Notre Dame in Indiana, this honesty can lead to a more fulfilling life.  

9. Love is the Key to a Happy and Fulfilling Life  

Yes, love is powerful. But it can give you more than amazing feelings and the emotional strength to follow your vision and achieve your goals. 

It might sound like a big statement to make, but being in a loving relationship is actually the key to a fulfilling life. This is the result of a 75-year study at Harvard University. 

Do you really want to continue to live your life without holding the key to a fulfilling life in your hands?