Don't Say These Words When You Apologize...They Will Ruin Everything!!!

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Try to avoid saying the word 'if' when you apologize to someone. Even if you are a receiver, then is good to know that the little word 'if' or the  little phrase I'm sorry if… leads often to misconception and actually is not really an apology. 

Instead of saying i’m sorry if i hurt you… or i’m sorry if i was too scary…, try something more straightforward like 'my behavior was inappropriate against you. I'm sorry, i was thoughtless, it will never happen again'. When you’re saying the word if, the other person starts questioning himself about his reaction to the actions that offended him and also, can come over as affable. 

A couple of weeks ago, my mother asked my girlfriend about her new haircut and commented that it makes her look like she’s insane. Afterwards, my mother apologized to her and said I'm sorry Mary if i hurt you, it was not a good joke'. Her catchy response was 'no problem at all, actually i don't really care for others opinion about my haircut.

        

My mother was shocked. After Mary has left, my mother explained to me that she tried her best to apologize about her behavior but Mary was unshakable to change her instant thoughts about what my mother said or what she wanted eventually to say.

        

So, even if you never meant to attack someone or you just tried to make a joke, which unfortunately for you went wrong, then apologize without the use of the little add-on words like if or but. These words, can turn your sorry into a not so sorry at all.