7 Things Anyone Who Loves A Highly Sensitive Person Should Know

Being highly sensitive in the modern dating world can be as difficult as finding a good Adam Sandler movie. They reflect on things more than anyone else, and at times they feel like they’re just on another level.

If you're lucky enough to love a highly sensitive person, hang on to them for life, they are a dying breed that's difficult but well worth it:

Below are a few things to keep in mind about your highly sensitive loved ones.

1. They don’t settle.

So when we’re with you, we’re with you. We only choose to be with someone who we’re crazy about, who satisfy us completely: emotionally, physically, metaphysically…

2. They feel deeper.

Ted Zeff, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide and other books on highly sensitive people, says “They like to process things on a deep level. They're very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.This emotional depth is just a part of us and we’re able to connect on a deeper level than most people. 

Because we care a lot, we have really high moral standards and we'll never betray you or take you for granted. 

3. They are incredibly empathetic

There’s a reason why sensitive people often make wonderful teachers: they tend to have huge reserves of empathy for others. Its just harder for them to walk past an upsetting situation playing out on the street without coming away with some residual emotion. It’s important to know that they simply cannot just turn off their feelings. They are natural empathizers and can sometimes transmute the pain of others.

4. They dont deal well with criticism

Be careful when you feel the need to critique your sensitive friend, family member, or lover. Being so in tune with themselves means that they are usually their own worst enemies, so anything negative you have to say will likely already have been realized by themselves. This doesnt mean you have to live in a world of unicorns and lollipops when you hang out with them, but use some tact. A good way to approach criticism with them is to spread it on both sides with love; a critical sandwich, if you will. It will be far easier for them to swallow.

5.They are going to cry. 

When they are happy, when they are sad and when they are angry. That’s because highly sensitive people just naturally feel more deeply and react accordingly.

6.It’s normal for them to disappear for a few days. 

Sensitives need time to enjoy their own inner lives. They might be really fun to hang out with, and may host a really fun party here and there. Afterwards, they’ll resort to a few days with very little human interaction. It’s fine if they do, and it’s necessary. If they say no to a really fun plan, it just may be that they are enjoying one of their quiet days.

7. They are extremely careful about your feelings: 

Because they are sensitive they've seen hurt and so most of them have no desire to perpetuate that hurt to anyone else. If you’re dating them you can be damn sure that they'll be as careful as possible to not hurt you in any way. 

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http://www.puckermob.com/relationships/10-things-to-know-before-dating-a-highly-se

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http://thoughtcatalog.com/sophia-borghese/2015/02/21-ways-to-take-care-of-a-highly-sensitive-person/